Goodbyes are always one of the hardest things in life. When the time comes to say goodbye; even when the moment has been well prepared for, it is never easy. As human beings we are wired to want to hold on as much as possible especially to our loved ones. It’s good because it shows how much we care for one another but we also need to learn that not everyone is meant to be in our lives forever.
There are people brought in our lives for a season. Maybe to teach us something or help us with something then leave our lives. Holding on in such scenarios causes more damage because more than anything it prevents us from moving forward to higher steps that we are now ready for. Sometimes it is very painful to let go so we do everything in our power, going as far as compromising some of our values or sacrificing our happiness to accommodate others. However, one can only stretch oneself for so long before breaking or reverting back to the original self.
You may have impeccable endurance able to withstand your uncomfortable situation for years but then the question to ask is do you really love yourself? Now if you sacrifice your happiness to this extent it would be safe to say that probably not. Yet you can’t truly love and care for another if you do not love yourself and are at peace with yourself enough to say no when your peace of mind is being destabilised.
As we head on to the new year, let us take time to reflect and see if the people in our lives are there because they want to or because we have begged them to by adapting ourselves to their wants and needs and not really being ourselves. Let us choose joy over self inflicted pain. Merry Christmas to you all 🙂
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